Navigating Our New Year
Let’s start by taking stock of where we are. We all just celebrated the New Year, friends, family, having a good time and ending the year with. A momentary feeling of hope. But that hope isn’t enough to make it come true. That’s why many of you if I asked you, would confess down deep you expect to be in the same state of drifting you were in last year, hoping yes, but hoping to avoid rather than hoping to achieve!
If you are ready to make a difference and ready to confront the work to truly make this new year a year of transformation that takes hope and transforms it into achievement, then stay with me as I help you take stock of where and who you are.
What do they say? Today is the first day of the rest of your life? It may be a trite saying, but we can give it a reality if we are willing to take it seriously.
In life, it is ok if sometimes you feel like you don’t know where you’re going and we don’t see good things in our life. Everyone goes through episodes of feeling that way… In fact, we need to have merit to see the good in our life, and merit to enjoy peace of mind that it is adding up to something.
If somewhere in the middle is where you are, let me help you see that it is vital to understand that if we are patient enough and authentic with ourselves we can lift the fog to begin to perceive what we need to do, or to change to experience the HAPPY in Happy New Year.
So right now, let me ask you to answer this question: Who are you?
Looking back over last year, have you been true to yourself? Do you know who you are?
Do you have someone in your life with whom you can be totally transparent with, someone who will be a genuine sounding board to help you clarify the direction and momentum you want to move toward?
I can’t tell you how powerful it can be to have that one person in your life. It could be a spouse or a teacher, or a good friend. There is a powerful benefit if and when you find one person to whom you can confess your hopes, as well as your failures, your frustrations, your fears, your confusion, and your concerns so that you can remember who you are? If you can’t do it with one other person in your life right now, you are not really living, but just pretending to be alive. You are fake, which may be harsh to say, but you are not truly happy or enjoying life.
To truly have a “Happy New Year” for real are you ready to do whatever it takes to have the true essence of happiness manifest? We usually like shortcuts because we don’t believe in ourselves or in the Creator that there is truly the possibility of being better.
So then we cheat, steal, not necessarily for literally, but figuratively we do. We steal energy from others, we cheat our boss, our families, and our friends by not genuinely being there for them and confronting what we need to in order to make our life real, so we become fake. We live out the year full of pretense so we get what we think we want. Kabbalists call it the body consciousness of comfort, giving us superficial happiness and superficial satisfaction. When we are real and authentic it takes time, it causes disruption maybe, but then real true happiness will come, and that is worthy of celebration.
Here’s my next question: Do you have someone in your life that you love? People who are not authentic cannot love. They are busy selling themselves to look good, so they draw the same kind of people in their lives. When you love someone it keeps you going. It gives you a focus. That’s what you should have in front of your eyes. A reason for becoming more.
How do you achieve this? Start today! Don’t be afraid to be you. You are beautiful; you actually don’t look good when you are fake. If we try not to be ourselves it won’t be good. Why are so many of us afraid to be ourselves? It’s that old addiction called acceptance.
Society wants to be accepted, you are allowed to be a little bit like that, but don’t let it overtake you. It’s nice to let love be our goal, but not love of someone else, or striving to be accepted by others. This year start by loving yourself. You are unique. So define to yourself who you are, and who you want to be.
What is truly important to you, where this year do you genuinely want to make a difference? Recognize and know your weaknesses, teach. Yourself how to say “I don’t know” once a day so you stretch yourself to become more!
And ask someone to teach you what you don’t know. If you can’t do that you are not being real. Sadness is something that sometimes we have to go through, but remember to get out of it. You can’t be sad all the time and you can’t be happy all the time. Life is a circle. There are three columns in the system that brings true happiness.
You need to be kind, you need to have the strength and you also have to have mercy… And to have a truly Happy New Year, you need to practice when to use which. There has to be a balance between the good, the bad, and the merciful in the middle. We need to be honest with ourselves when we have failed to keep that balance and when we have succeeded.
Sometimes you land in a long relationship and if it`s not really you, whether personal or in business… So you need to find a way out, but don’t cheat the system and cheat on the relationship. In the end, you are cheating yourself because you don’t believe that there is a way out that will not cause embarrassment, or hurt or loss of something…
Today really can be the first day of the rest of your life. It can be the perfect time to take stock of who you are and who you want to be when New Year’s Eve comes around this year. So, I truly wish you all the start of a new and happy year ahead! One that is real and true.
Happy New Year everyone!
Vital Transformation is committed to empowering your life to not only bless you but to help you to be a blessing to others. We look forward to being part of your journey to bring in a genuinely happy one.